Brains are delicate things…
Eros is the defective love life of the leaning, dependent person, simply because he is incapable of anything more than seeking and taking in his relationships; he is not yet a giver or a doer. Eros is still the child in us that remains at the original nutritional level, using every device- political and physical – to exploit, dominate and possess the object.
Page 70 of Beyond Success and Failure
Willard and Marguerite Beecher 1966 Simon and Schuster Books
Love and hate are but two different ways of depending on someone else. Love (eros) is gratified by dependency. Hate is our resentment at being frustrated at being dependent. There is a love(agape) which has no opposite and seeks no favors or return. It exists when we are wholly impartial in our interest and are willing to live-and-let-live in coexistence.
agape is (wikipedia)
is one of the Greek words translated into English as love, one which became particularly appropriated in Christian theology as the love of God or Christ for mankind. In the New Testament, [it refers to] the fatherly love of God for humans, as well as the human reciprocal love for God; the term necessarily extends to the love of one’s fellow man. Many have thought that this word represents divine, unconditional, self-sacrificing, active, volitional, and thoughtful love. Although the word does not have specific religious connotation, the word has been used by a variety of contemporary and ancient sources, including Biblical authors and Christian authors. Greek philosophers at the time of Plato and other ancient authors have used forms of the word to denote love of a spouse or family, or affection for a particular activity, in contrast to philia (an affection that could denote friendship, brotherhood or generally non-sexual affection) and eros, an affection of a sexual nature. Thomas Jay Oord has defined agape as “an intentional response to promote well-being when responding to that which has generated ill-being.”