Intellectual Self Defence

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Cuckolding, Polyamory and Open Relationships (nsfw – well, duh!)

From advice columnist Dan Savage

“Polyamorous relationships and open relationships are two different things. Some poly relationships are open, but many poly relationships are closed—that is, three people (or more) are involved with each other exclusively, i.e., no randoms, no romancing potential fourths, fifths, or sixths. The reverse is also true: Not all open relationships are poly. Two people in an open relationship may allow fucking around with other people with the understanding that there will be no dating or—God forbid—falling in love with anyone else.

And then there’s cuckolding. The whole “cuckolding thing” is about the female half of a heterosexual couple breaking the rules and then rubbing her partner’s nose in the evidence of her cheating. (Some cuckolds get off on literally having their noses rubbed in the evidence.) Cuckolding is eroticized betrayal, CUCK, and you spent months fantasizing with your girlfriend about being betrayed. All that dirty talk, all those made up stories—remember? But when it came time to turn your fantasies into reality, CUCK, you laid out the rules for what sounds like a fairly standard open-not-poly relationship: She could fuck other people and so could you. Once again, I’m confused: The cuckold in a “cuckolding thing” typically doesn’t get to fuck around. He gets fucked around on.”

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3 comments on “Cuckolding, Polyamory and Open Relationships (nsfw – well, duh!)

  1. vanessachaland
    February 9, 2013

    Hence the reason that cuckoldry, in it’s purest form, is a female centered relationship wherein the female is the focal point of the attentions of the two (or more) males in her life. Guy’s trying to “top from the bottom” often end up on the losing end. 🙂

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